The Blame Game Played By 98% of 8 Billion People

In this article, I will share with you my theory on the "blame game", its negative effects, and why you should avoid it.

I remembered the hate I devoted towards people who blamed something or someone for a problem.

I got angry at anyone who couldn't accept a damn mistake and sought for someone else to blame it on.

At first I thought I was crazy.

But when I turned 24, I realized that I wasn't crazy after all.

And here's why:

The world is quite a chaotic place.

In less than 2 decades, we've witnessed the invasion of nations.

Countries at utter dismay and confusion.

Israel hunting down its enemies.

Ukraine defending itself from its enemies.

People getting jobs, and at the same time being fired from it.

Companies are founded, and at the same time file for bankruptcy

Two teenagers fall in love, and at the same time break up.

A hardworking author spends time writing a book he thinks is "fantastic" only to find it rejected 24 times like Tim Ferris's "The 4 Hour Work Week"

Walk up to any of these people and ask them "who would you blame?"

It would shock you that none of them would own up that they have a hand in the problem they are facing.

It's a crazy world that you live in, where everyone feels like the world is cursed, and at the same time are optimistic about a happy ending, while rejecting the responsibilities they must face on either side of the isle.

The problem is that in all these things:

----> There's a finger pointing to someone else.

But who?

The government is blamed for the increase in inflation.

The food companies are blamed for producing foods that are cancerous to the body.

A nation is blamed for plotting a coup to wipe out a race.

A teacher who comes to work by 10am and records 7am blames the leader of the nation for stealing money. Oh really?

For every single problem that has occurred on earth, there has always been someone or something to blame.

Does it make sense why the world is not getting better?

Do you now realize why you'll probably never have a world that's free from wars, and the chaos of it?

Does it make sense why some companies will still file for bankruptcy at the end of the year, not minding their great products?

All because - in the midst of all the problems, we humans have found a way to always say - "It is not my fault."

And that term is what I call the "blame game"

You see it on almost every Hollywood movie. 

A character makes a damned mistake, and someone else just quips "It's alright darling. It's not your fault."

Well, who's fault is it? Aliens?

It makes me weak and tired when I see this world slipping deeper into chaos and destruction, because no one wants to take the responsibility.

That's why I will always dare every optimist to tell me, from history, or facts, where a nation or country or the world has become peaceful, without accepting that the problem is their fault.

The last time you were late to work, whom did you blame? Traffic? The multiple babies you have? The business? Sleep?

The last time you cooked a terrible meal for lunch, whom did you blame? Your husband, boyfriend, or even God?

It sounds like an issue to pass up on, but to what end?

If you pass it, who's going to take it? Who is going to bear the pain?

Have you realized that 90% of the reoccurring problems of the world from inflation, to economic breakdown, social injustice and the rest, are all because "someone" has refused to own up for his fault. He keeps saying it's not his fault, he's a good man. Seriously?

That's why the transgender movement is growing fast, and soon your daughter will lose a championship cup, because a guy who claims he's now a woman beat her in the game, and you'll raise your hand as the leader of a nation and say "it's not my fault"

There's no utter explanation to the crime of the blame game to our human race.

For the first time in our lives - we humans have refused to own up to our faults, and it started from long ago - in the garden of Eden.

History has taught us, that there's never a good reason to refuse owning up for your mistakes.

There's never a perfect logic to blaming someone else for your problems.

Imagine a lazy mom, blaming the government for not giving her food.

Imagine a lazy 21-year old who's always screwing around with a 19-year old gal, blame life for not making it easy on him.

Seriously?

The problem isn't the existence of a problem, but the absence of people who have the courage to say "I did it. I am wrong."

Like David in the Bible, who is willing to say "I am sorry?"

That is the person who will rule the world. That is the person who will get things to happen the way he wants it.

For as long as we all deny our involvement in our problems, those who we blame, will never accept it.

I remember clearly a phrase most students use when they want to explain the reason for not getting admission into a university or course, they'll say "UNN gave me, OR they gave me."

Bro, who gave you what?

Aunty, who dashed you the course?

That wasn't a Christmas gift.

It was totally the consequence of your actions.

The blame game is why someone never gets good at a craft, because he spends his whole time blaming time, being busy.

In 2021, one of my drum mentors - Wilfred - said to me "You have become worse off than you are in your play."

I could have sighed, called him a fool for not understanding that I am the only human who has 16-hours everyday.

But I didn't. 

Did I feel hurt? Yes.

But it was my fault, not time, not studies.

I owned up the problem, and damn right my play on the drums changed from then till now that I am writing this piece for you.

What's the grasp?

Until you start owning up your faults and stop blaming people, you'll always play second, always play catch-up.

Life will keep treating you bad.

You will always be among the herd of those who always find those to blame for their problems.

Life doesn't owe you anything.

You owe yourself the damn courtesy to own up to your problems - accept it- and fix it.

Till next time - Stop playing the blame game.

I owe you nothing but the truth. 

Now share it with someone else.